Written by: Cindy Morrone

Having to relay my history to a social worker for our fostering application, she made comment that I had been through very much.  And then she asked me how had I persevered?  How did I not let my past determine my present and my future?

I have often thought of that.

“Resiliency” is defined by Luthar, Cicchetti and Becke, 2000 as, “The achievement of positive adaptation despite exposure to significant threat or severe adversity.”

Resiliency is a game changer.

We are guaranteed to have trouble in this life.

A long time ago, I didn’t believe that. I thought that if I had done all the right things and made all the right plans, that I could avoid brokenness.

And then things beyond my control begin to hammer into my wellness and threatened my recovery.

I promise you my ability to bounce back has nothing to do with me.

Left to my own devices hurt, fear, and feelings of worthlessness turn to a (too high) wall shutting all out.  Closing off any chance to love again; to be restored; to live my life abundantly.  So much would be missed.

Maybe for you it’s anger, revenge, bitterness or unforgiveness. And so much is missed.

So, if it isn’t me, then what? Who?

Hebrews chapter 10 verse 23 encourages us, “Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for he who promised is faithful.”

There it is……. hope.

Hope that things will get better.  Hope that things will change.  Hope that our prayers will be answered. Hope that we will love and be loved.

What is it that you are hoping for?

My certainty no longer lies in others, or circumstances, outcomes, wins or losses; it relies on the faithfulness of the One I pray to.

I’ll never forget the celebration we had when our forever family was established.  Standing on the platform, my husband and I vowed to parent two beautiful babies.  Me, a barren woman.

My hope lies in my Forever Faithful.

Where does your hope lie?

A Quenchable Thirst

By: Cindy Morrone

One of my most treasured Bible stories is about the Samaritan woman (John 4:1-42) at the well that met up with a man that changed her life. She had come to draw water at a time of day where as to most likely avoid others, but this day there was a man at the well and the man asked her to give him a drink.

This startled her for so many desperate reasons. He was of a kind that was to despise hers; He knew of her sinful circumstances and yet, He reached out to her and offered her an alternative. I love this story so much because I was like her.

“Jesus answered, “Everyone who drinks this water will be thirsty again, but whoever drinks the water I give him will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give him will become in him a spring of water welling up to eternal life.” “(John 4:13 &14)

I was so much like her, living in sin and hiding from my shame, until I met Him.

..a spring of water welling up to eternal life….

And when I confessed with my mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believed in my heart that God raised him from the dead, I was saved! (Romans 10:9) I received eternal life!!

This story recently came to my thoughts again, as I was praying during feelings of doubt, fear and insecurities. And as I cried out to my Lord, He met me again and whispered a reminder that I shall thirst no more. I have everything I need in Christ no matter the circumstances, no matter what I can ‘see’ with my eyes, no matter the situation. He is all that I need and His promises and faithfulness cause victory over all!

Dear Heavenly and Gracious Father,
We cannot in our mere words thank You for the offer and gift of salvation; eternal life. For forgiveness that comes by Your shed blood. That we can come to You, and You are waiting for us, just as we are in our sin and shame. Lord, God, we confess with our mouths that “Jesus is Lord” and we believe in our hearts that You are raised from the dead and seated at the right hand of our Father. As we confess we have faith that eternal life is ours and life abundantly (John 10:10). We don’t want to thirst anymore! Amen!


One of My Biggest Road Blocks to Following God’s Will

Written by: Cindy Morrone

It’s nothing new.

It was one of those ah-ha moments, as I listened to the Bible teacher share the story of The Fall, found in Genesis Chapter 3.

And as she relayed the events of deception and disobedience, it struck me personally.

Like Eve, I can believe that in following the Lord’s leading in my life, that I may miss out.  That He, God will withhold something from me.

My tree in the middle of the garden? Provision.

Provision of needs, provision of strength, provision of love, provision of grace……..

I have been struggling with this especially of late. With little peace obtained, I knew my personal battle was not yet over and I waited patiently for this very moment.

The moment of revealed Truth that would calm my doubts, my fears and my strife.

You see, my life today is so very different than what I had planned out.  I had a plan, a direction and since I have been trying to follow the Lord’s leading in my life, it couldn’t look any more different.

Many times, I’ve wanted to eat the apple; take things back into my own hands, my own ways, my own will.

It seems that the deeper I follow His will for me; the more tempted I am to pluck of the fruit.

Thankful for this moment.  Thankful that the serpent of deception lost, yet again.  Immersed in the Word, and in the company of others encouraging the Faith, my battle at this time is over.

Once again, I chose to say, ‘Yes,’ to God’s will in my life and the life of my family, believing that He will provide all that we need.

‘Jesus went out as usual to the Mount of Olives, and his disciples followed him. On reaching the place, he said to them, “Pray that you will not fall into temptation.” He withdrew about a stone’s throw beyond them, knelt down and prayed, “Father, if you are willing, take this cup from me; yet not my will, but yours be done.” Luke 22:39-42

Have You Stopped Dreaming?

Written by: Cindy Morrone

Do you remember a way back when you would dream about your future? Let’s think back if only for this moment.  Maybe it was your dream to be a princess just to wear a crown or maybe a veterinarian to heal you beloved friend; a pilot or captain to see horizons abroad; a musician to rock the world; a teacher; a Mom…?

Our heart’s desires won every time and the possibilities were endless and only limited by our imaginations.

Remember when.

And then life seemed to happen.

As the demands of daily routines set in and the circumstances and life happenings dictated our time, energy and efforts, our heart’s desires were silenced.

The years push them down deep, until somewhere along the way our dreams seemed lost.

Dare to dream again.  For you…….

“The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.”  John 10:10

  • Believe that this is for us. That Jesus wants this for you and me….to live life to the fullest.
  • Know that He, Jesus, has done all that is needed for us to have this abundant life.
  • Realize the sacrifice made out of His intense, and deep love for us.

After homeschooling our daughters for 5 years, I find myself in a season of rediscovery.  A time to ask the Lord,” What’s next?”

I am in amazement about His continued plans for me and our life.  Just when I thought I had fulfilled my God given purposes, He shows me more…more for Him, His glory and His purposes. And in His plans for me, I am living an abundant life!

Can God Really Heal our Grief?

Written by: Cindy Morrone

Too many times I’ve stood on the too bright green, artificial grass mat under the suspended coffin carrying a loved one.  Surrounded by dead silence and the others, also suppressing the loss as to not be overcome.  Frankly, one time is too many.

Frequently now, I’ve stared at an empty crib with the freshly used whimsical patterned sheet, to only have my husband dissemble it and remove it from beside our bed.

Most recently, I hang up the phone, so thankful for the chance to stay connected but so missing the nearness.

Grief comes in all sorts of ways, bitter ends, tragic losses, distant relations and inevitable change.

Despite the differences, we all experience grief.

It is difficult to write this.  To share with you and not yet fully know the answer to my own question. Can God really heal our grief?  I continue to grieve and I am not completely over the losses.  And I don’t know if I will ever be.  And I don’t know if I truly want to be.  As if holding on keeps the connection.

And yet, life continues.  It doesn’t wait for me to be fully recovered.  It moves on, changes don’t change and losses remain.

So, it’s here that I live.

As I look to Scripture for comfort, I am reminded of the story told in the gospel of John, about Lazarus’ death; a dear friend of Jesus.

‘When Jesus saw her weeping, and the Jews who had come along with her also weeping, he was deeply moved in the spirit and troubled.  “Where have you laid him?” he asked.  “Come and see, Lord,” they replied.  Jesus wept.’  John 11:33-35

This story ensures me that it’s ok to be sad; to cry; to weep.  It’s ok to be moved and troubled.  That the knowing of the loss and the feeling of the loss and the response to the loss is ok.

In this same story, Jesus asks a question, that has also helped me in my own healing.

‘Then Jesus said, “Did I not tell you that if you believe, you will see the glory of God?” John 11:40

And it’s here where my hope lies.  My belief in the glory of God.

It’s when I, like Mary in this story, reach out to Jesus and fall at his feet, that I know my story doesn’t end.  In prayer and in His Word, I find my comfort and the Comforter is my help.

In my sadness and loneliness and in the emptiness, there is hope.

Hope to love and be loved just as deeply still.


Written by: Cindy Morrone

It’s time to Celebrate!!

We have made it!! Congratulations to us!!

As we reflect on how far we’ve come, we can’t help but notice the steps we have taken.  We meet consistently with the One; the only One that can help us when it comes to using the power in our words to “…heal, build up, encourage and cheer.” (page 180) We have overcome tongue wrestling challenges and continue to step up our ante.  We regularly feast on the Wunderbar Pretzel Sandwich and boy; does it taste good!  Now it’s time to celebrate and share our victories.

Are you ready for our final Keep It Shut Challenge?!?

(Drum roll, please…….)

Write 5 Remembrance Letters and hand/send/mail them out.

Review pages 173-175 and let’s be encouragers, like the apostle Paul.  Let’s use our words to thank others‘…directly, verbally or in writing.  It really doesn’t take that much time to briefly step out of our daily routine and devote a moment or two to shooting off an email, making a phone call, or even sending a handwritten note to someone whom we would say, “I thank my God every time I remember you.”’ (page 171)

Don’t miss Karen’s page 172, Love Prompts for some great starters!!

Post It!!

We’d love to hear about someone you’ve chosen to bless with a remembrance letter!!  We don’t need names of course but perhaps why they’ve been chosen and how you expressed your gratitude.

Thank you so much for your willingness to partake in this study and challenges!!  Thank you for sharing with us.  We are honoured and know there is learning in the sharing!!

Can’t get enough challenges?!! Want more? See Karen’s final challenge at the bottom of page 203.  Who’s in?!

Bless you and your endeavors with the Holy Spirit to, Keep It Shut!


Written by: Cindy Morrone

Who’s hungry?  Anyone up for a “Wunderbar Pretzel Sandwich?”

The Apostle Paul gives us excellent advice when it comes to speaking to others.  “Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ.”  Ephesians 4:15

Whether we struggle with people-pleasing, flattery, being honest or feeling angry, this advice will help us; do as Jesus did, love on others.

Keep It Shut Challenge #3

Let’s put Karen’s, “Wunderbar Pretzel Sandwich” approach into practice when we “need to deliver difficult words in a delicate situation.” (page 153).

Review her approach on page 152.

Notice the steps:

  • Start with an encouraging word
  • Speak the hard truth statement
  • Finish off with another encouraging truth

Post it!  Let’s share how we’ve attempted to use this approach throughout our week.  We learn from the sharing.  When posting, let’s please remember Karen’s guidelines about controlling our digital tongue found all throughout her Chapter 6 Behind the Screen in pages 95-111.

  • Let us continually and constantly remember, we need never do this on our own. Karen reminds us, “And if we’re trying to die to self in our own strength, they will also be impossible.  In order to die to self in the daily, routine hassles and relational challenges we face, we must draw deeply from the available power of the Holy Spirit, surrendering our life and words to his will.” (page 167)


Written by: Cindy Morrone

Hi! I’ve come to meet with you in your personal sanctuary. I won’t be long, I know this is your sacred time and place.  I just want to know. How are you doing?  How is your time with Jesus going? Have you been able to spend this time with Him consistently? Without distraction?

If yes, so awesome, isn’t it?  I know when I’ve committed this time to my Jesus, He has never let me down.  I am more equipped for my day; at peace because I rested in His Holy Presence.

If no, do you remember our key word from the last challenge?  Grace

And press on.

In Chapter 4, Karen encourages us to, ‘turn first to prayer to process life.’ (page 63) And all throughout this chapter stresses the importance of conversations with our God.

We are better poised to process life’s troubles after petitioning God first.  I’m still learning this lesson, but the calm I feel when I get the order straight encourages me to keep on trying.” (page 63)

Keep It Shut Challenge #2

Review pages 72-77 and notice Karen’s outlined 5 steps ‘to be a little more prayer warrior and a little less prayer wimp.’ (page 73) 😊

Pick your place.  I see these steps as incremental; one building on the other.  If you are on step 1 then jump to step 2.  Or if you are already in the habit of journaling your prayers and devotions (step 3) then step it up and memorize those recorded Scriptures (step 4).  On page 75, Karen lists 10 relevant Scriptures that I am writing on my heart by memorizing.

Step 5 is for all of us.  In our sanctuaries as we read, write and memorize let’s apply our heart changes in our everyday.

And remember we are never alone.  Karen reminds us on page 77 that, “God’s Word is both powerful and practical.  Through it He will give you directives, but not without also giving you the supernatural strength to carry them out.”

Post it!  It would be so great to hear from each other.  What step are you on and how have you stepped it up to meet this challenge?

CHALLENGE ONE: Overcome A Challenge


Written by: Cindy Morrone

As we now meet with Jesus regularly in our own personal sanctuaries, enveloped in His Word and by the convictions of the Holy Spirit; amazing things start to happen.

This is just the start, my friends!  Let’s not just be attentive to the leading of God during our intentional times with Him but at all times; all throughout our day.

Karen, in Chapter 1, urges us to “…do it all with an attitude of openness that continues throughout the day. Be attentive to the Holy Spirit’s whispers to you—keep silent if that is the Spirit’s leading.  Or open your mouth and allow the words he is whispering and urging you to say to come out in your own sweet little voice.  It isn’t easy. It takes effort.”  (page 19)

Ready for Keep It Shut, Challenge #1?

Let’s read over pages 30-37 and take our cues from Joseph.  Notice Karen’s 8 learning points she has taken from Joseph’s life story.

Identify which one of these cues is your biggest challenge.  And in your meetings with the Lord, ask Him how He can help you with this challenge.

My page 39 is highlighted and underlined from the top to the bottom with Karen’s teaching on how to help us, Keep It Shut.  One word, my friends, one word……Grace. Grace. And more Grace!

Resist our urge to lash out? Yes! Bite down on our tongues? Yes! Do the right thing? Yes! Show Grace?!! Yes, and Yes!


“When we lace our words with grace, healing happens.” (page 39)

Post it!  We love to hear from you!  Share your biggest challenge from the cues from Joseph # 1-8 and how God helped you address and overcome this challenge this week!  There is so much learning in the sharing!