Deficient Love

Written by: Cindy Morrone

I know this doesn’t happen in your home but frequently it does in ours.  Here’s how it goes.  One daughter tells on another and as soon as I get the first few words of discipline out, my words are cut off.  Ultimately the accused rebuttals and then the accuser retaliates and all of my teaching is lost in the mess of it all.

Similarly, I am noticing that this can happen with us adults too.  We, by our deficiencies, can interrupt God’s teachings in others.

Have you ever had the honour of sharing in someone else’s mess?

Just yesterday after several disappointments, I reached out to a mentor and new-found friend in my life.  She was immediately available; sacrificially laying aside for me.  She listened attentively and related where she could.  She responded in a way that encouraged me, lifted me up and drew me closer to our Jesus.  She prayed over the phone with me, reciting Scripture to feed me Truth.  She didn’t pry or appear to have all the answers but she directed me to the One that does.

I don’t always respond that way especially in my marriage.

Laced in my own fears, doubts and insecurities, I can respond in a way that distracts from God’s will in his life. I set the focus on me and us and not Him.  I have said out loud, “I can not be what you need.”

And therein lies the truth.  I do not have what it takes.  And if I keep delving out deficient love then derailment is eminent.

I need to go get Love.

“Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.”  1 John 4:7&8

“And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us.”  Romans 5:5

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.  Against such things there is no law.”  Galatians 5:22

And it’s when my own fears, doubts and insecurities meet with the profound knowing of God’s love for me that the filling overflows onto those I am most in love with.

 

 

The Difference One Word Makes

Written by: Cindy Morrone

Why would He require a young pregnant woman to travel miles and miles away from her family and all that was secure and familiar to her?

It doesn’t make sense.

Why would He ask a righteous man to allow his integrity to be questioned for another’s problem?

It’s inconceivable to ask one to take such a personal risk.

And I ask time and time again of Him, to answer, similar questions.  Why as we attempt to live in obedience to Him is there such uncomfortableness, unfamiliarity, risk and sacrifice?

I think a lot.  Too much.  I am thankful for how I am wired; created, but what can be one of my greatest assets, can also be one of my greatest obstacles.

I often joke that I could never work in an emergency room.  There just isn’t enough time to research and ask the world-renowned experts for just the right solution in such a crisis situation!

And my questions go unanswered.  Instead, a knowing transpires.

To just ‘stand’ and not ‘understand.’  Dropping one word makes all the difference.  Standing on faith alone makes all the difference.

And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him.  Hebrews 11:6

Believing in a higher power rather than in myself; is just that.

Have you ever read the book of Job?

It is in the last few chapters where God answers Job.  Not directly but by asking this blameless and upright faithful servant, a series of questions that no human could possibly answer.  And in response Job replies, “I know that you can do all things; no purpose of yours can be thwarted.  You asked, ‘Who is this that obscures my plans without knowledge?’ Surely I spoke of things I did not understand, things too wonderful for me to know.”  Job 42: 2&3

It is in the unknowing that a Saviour was born and eternal life defeated death.

It is in the unknowing that the impossible is made possible, miracles happen, restoration and healing occur and hope is renewed.

Dear Heavenly and Gracious Father, help us to let go of a need to understand and fully trust in You rooted in a knowing of your deep love for us.

Christianity Like Bull Riding

Written by: Cindy Morrone

It happens, right close to my home town a real live rodeo!!  We went to go and see it one year.  It was fantastic!

There was barrel and steer racing, tiedown roping and clowns!! Rodeo clowns!! It didn’t take long to notice that these colourfully dressed, silly acting men were needed beyond entertainment.  They were protection experts to those in the ring.

Right at the end of the evening there was major hype!  For a rookie like me, I didn’t know what was going to happen but knew it was extremely dangerous by the tone of the announcer’s voice and lighting.  It was time for the bull riding!!

Out of the bucking shoot storms a massive bull, jumping and bucking with all its might to rid the rider on top of it.

I don’t pretend to know the first thing about bull riding except for what I saw.

What I noticed and the image that has stuck with me is the bull rider’s hand hold.  One hand holds onto a rope while the other is free.

It was the contradiction of the rider’s hand placement that has caught my attention.

Oftentimes, when I am wrestling with gigantic obstacles, all I can do is hold on with white knuckles. I hold onto the promises and truths to me, written throughout the Bible clutching them and not letting go.

“Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you.  You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.”  Jeremiah 29: 12 & 13

“No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.  For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”  Romans 8:37-39

“Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.”  Deuteronomy 31:6

Simultaneously, I need to let go of all those things that are not in my control and lift my hand in freedom and in submission; asking for God’s help.  I can’t fix them, I can’t change them, I can’t try harder; work harder.  I can’t figure out or understand or solve my way out of.  Like the 1500-pound bull, many problems are just too immense for me to handle.

“Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.”  Hebrews 4:16

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”  Philippians 4:6-7

“Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.”  1 Peter 5:7

It is only when I do these two paradoxical resolutions at the same time that my time with the beast ends; the terrifying ride is over and the war is won for me in victory!

No, you will never find me on top of a bull.  Never.

But you will find me trying to follow a bull rider’s hand hold.  Clutching with white knuckles to my Jesus while letting go of those things not meant for me to hold onto and letting God!!

SISTERHOOD SUNDAY with Christine Calder

Written by: Cindy Morrone

Happy New Year’s Eve!! Praying for God’s richest blessings to you and yours!!

Thank you for joining us for our last episode of our Abundant Life video series!! (Stay tuned for our exciting plans for our video series in 2018!!)

I am so thankful for everyone’s testimonies. Each one a different story but the same faithfulness threaded throughout!! Perhaps—right now— you are in the middle of a huge life challenge. We are hoping that in our sharing you will hold onto the hope we find in our faithful God.

Christine Calder and I share the experience of infertility. She has an amazing story and a beautiful family!! Praying blessing as you listen to her sharing. I am so thankful for this woman and her testimony of faith!! Thank you, my friend!!

How Do You Want to Spend Next Christmas?

Written by: Cindy Morrone

Let me wish you a Happy New Year!! God’s richest blessings to you and yours!!

On the night before Christmas, sitting on a make shift stool in front of her dresser mirror, straightening her hair before our Christmas Eve service, she remarked, “It just doesn’t feel like Christmas this year.”  With her changing age and beliefs, her joy could no longer be found in the magic of the season.

Our tired Christmas tree sits in our front window blocking most of the outside view.  The ornaments now droop and the needles are littering our living room floor.  I am no longer putting back up the few Christmas cards that fall with a passerby but instead stack them for keepsake.  The opened boxes and tissue paper scattered where they were opened are now intolerable sights.

This time between December 25th and the beginning of January somethings happens; an awareness of out with the old and in with the new.

And as the cleanup begins, a process of self-examination takes place.

Was our Christmas as we imagined?  Was it as we anticipated?  Expected even?  Did we spend it with those intended?  How was it celebrated?

Or not?

Perhaps it was the turmoil of biting into one more delicacy only to be riddled with guilt and self-condemnation.  Maybe it was clothed in loneliness as you left the unconnected marriage bed.  Or stress from the financial burden of gifting.

Sure, the motions of Christmas happened but joy could not be found this year.

And as we reminisce, putting away the decorations and replacing last year’s calendar, there is a hope that wells up in us.  Next Christmas will be different.

Resolutions begin.

A New Year. New Beginnings. New Opportunity.  New Hopes and Dreams.

This one thing will determine whether we keep our New Year’s resolutions or not.

Our, ‘why story.’ Maybe you’ve heard of this before; it seems pretty popular right now.  It’s our story. Personal in every way.  It’s what motivates us; drives us and inspires us.

Why do we want to lose weight and be healthier? Why do we want to be in thriving marriages? Why do we want financial security? Why do we want to repair those relationships so our loved ones sit at our dining room table next Christmas?  Why do we want to reach further—beyond our 4 walls and the borders of our nuclear family?

It’s so important to ask ourselves these questions.  To dig deep and unpeel the layers reaching the core of our heart’s desires.

And there is not better time than now as we ring in the New Year.  (Because I don’t know about you but it takes me some time to work through these things.)

It is our why that will motivate us and carry us through to the determined finished line.

My why, is best determined in my quiet time with my Lord.  It is there, immersed in His Word and teachings where the communion of wills is placed on my life and where my heart motives align with His solidifying faith-filled ways lead by Love, Joy & Peace.

It was here that the calling of becoming a foster Mama arose.  This idea did not come from the grey matter of this old and barren brain, no, it was birthed in the relationship with my heavenly Father.  And so, our Christmas this year, was spent holding and sharing, in wonderment, this special holiday with a precious little one for her first time.

“Take delight in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart.” Psalm 37:4

Let’s be challenged and write out our ‘why story’.  I need to make changes this year.  How about you?

Secondly, let’s share our ‘why story’ with one another.

Send in your ‘why story’ for an opportunity for We Are His Daughters to share it on our website.  A few select stories will be chosen to be shared throughout this year.

Happy ‘why’ seeking and all the success for next Christmas as you imagined, envisioned and expected!!

Resilience

 

Written by: Cindy Morrone

Having to relay my history to a social worker for our fostering application, she made comment that I had been through very much.  And then she asked me how had I persevered?  How did I not let my past determine my present and my future?

I have often thought of that.

“Resiliency” is defined by Luthar, Cicchetti and Becke, 2000 as, “The achievement of positive adaptation despite exposure to significant threat or severe adversity.”

Resiliency is a game changer.

We are guaranteed to have trouble in this life.

A long time ago, I didn’t believe that. I thought that if I had done all the right things and made all the right plans, that I could avoid brokenness.

And then things beyond my control begin to hammer into my wellness and threatened my recovery.

I promise you my ability to bounce back has nothing to do with me.

Left to my own devices hurt, fear, and feelings of worthlessness turn to a (too high) wall shutting all out.  Closing off any chance to love again; to be restored; to live my life abundantly.  So much would be missed.

Maybe for you it’s anger, revenge, bitterness or unforgiveness. And so much is missed.

So, if it isn’t me, then what? Who?

Hebrews chapter 10 verse 23 encourages us, “Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for he who promised is faithful.”

There it is……. hope.

Hope that things will get better.  Hope that things will change.  Hope that our prayers will be answered. Hope that we will love and be loved.

What is it that you are hoping for?

My certainty no longer lies in others, or circumstances, outcomes, wins or losses; it relies on the faithfulness of the One I pray to.

I’ll never forget the celebration we had when our forever family was established.  Standing on the platform, my husband and I vowed to parent two beautiful babies.  Me, a barren woman.

My hope lies in my Forever Faithful.

Where does your hope lie?

A Quenchable Thirst

By: Cindy Morrone

One of my most treasured Bible stories is about the Samaritan woman (John 4:1-42) at the well that met up with a man that changed her life. She had come to draw water at a time of day where as to most likely avoid others, but this day there was a man at the well and the man asked her to give him a drink.

This startled her for so many desperate reasons. He was of a kind that was to despise hers; He knew of her sinful circumstances and yet, He reached out to her and offered her an alternative. I love this story so much because I was like her.

“Jesus answered, “Everyone who drinks this water will be thirsty again, but whoever drinks the water I give him will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give him will become in him a spring of water welling up to eternal life.” “(John 4:13 &14)

I was so much like her, living in sin and hiding from my shame, until I met Him.

..a spring of water welling up to eternal life….

And when I confessed with my mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believed in my heart that God raised him from the dead, I was saved! (Romans 10:9) I received eternal life!!

This story recently came to my thoughts again, as I was praying during feelings of doubt, fear and insecurities. And as I cried out to my Lord, He met me again and whispered a reminder that I shall thirst no more. I have everything I need in Christ no matter the circumstances, no matter what I can ‘see’ with my eyes, no matter the situation. He is all that I need and His promises and faithfulness cause victory over all!

Dear Heavenly and Gracious Father,
We cannot in our mere words thank You for the offer and gift of salvation; eternal life. For forgiveness that comes by Your shed blood. That we can come to You, and You are waiting for us, just as we are in our sin and shame. Lord, God, we confess with our mouths that “Jesus is Lord” and we believe in our hearts that You are raised from the dead and seated at the right hand of our Father. As we confess we have faith that eternal life is ours and life abundantly (John 10:10). We don’t want to thirst anymore! Amen!

 

One of My Biggest Road Blocks to Following God’s Will

Written by: Cindy Morrone

It’s nothing new.

It was one of those ah-ha moments, as I listened to the Bible teacher share the story of The Fall, found in Genesis Chapter 3.

And as she relayed the events of deception and disobedience, it struck me personally.

Like Eve, I can believe that in following the Lord’s leading in my life, that I may miss out.  That He, God will withhold something from me.

My tree in the middle of the garden? Provision.

Provision of needs, provision of strength, provision of love, provision of grace……..

I have been struggling with this especially of late. With little peace obtained, I knew my personal battle was not yet over and I waited patiently for this very moment.

The moment of revealed Truth that would calm my doubts, my fears and my strife.

You see, my life today is so very different than what I had planned out.  I had a plan, a direction and since I have been trying to follow the Lord’s leading in my life, it couldn’t look any more different.

Many times, I’ve wanted to eat the apple; take things back into my own hands, my own ways, my own will.

It seems that the deeper I follow His will for me; the more tempted I am to pluck of the fruit.

Thankful for this moment.  Thankful that the serpent of deception lost, yet again.  Immersed in the Word, and in the company of others encouraging the Faith, my battle at this time is over.

Once again, I chose to say, ‘Yes,’ to God’s will in my life and the life of my family, believing that He will provide all that we need.

‘Jesus went out as usual to the Mount of Olives, and his disciples followed him. On reaching the place, he said to them, “Pray that you will not fall into temptation.” He withdrew about a stone’s throw beyond them, knelt down and prayed, “Father, if you are willing, take this cup from me; yet not my will, but yours be done.” Luke 22:39-42

Have You Stopped Dreaming?

Written by: Cindy Morrone

Do you remember a way back when you would dream about your future? Let’s think back if only for this moment.  Maybe it was your dream to be a princess just to wear a crown or maybe a veterinarian to heal you beloved friend; a pilot or captain to see horizons abroad; a musician to rock the world; a teacher; a Mom…?

Our heart’s desires won every time and the possibilities were endless and only limited by our imaginations.

Remember when.

And then life seemed to happen.

As the demands of daily routines set in and the circumstances and life happenings dictated our time, energy and efforts, our heart’s desires were silenced.

The years push them down deep, until somewhere along the way our dreams seemed lost.

Dare to dream again.  For you…….

“The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.”  John 10:10

  • Believe that this is for us. That Jesus wants this for you and me….to live life to the fullest.
  • Know that He, Jesus, has done all that is needed for us to have this abundant life.
  • Realize the sacrifice made out of His intense, and deep love for us.

After homeschooling our daughters for 5 years, I find myself in a season of rediscovery.  A time to ask the Lord,” What’s next?”

I am in amazement about His continued plans for me and our life.  Just when I thought I had fulfilled my God given purposes, He shows me more…more for Him, His glory and His purposes. And in His plans for me, I am living an abundant life!