If you were to ask me what was a challenging season of my life, I would have to say the baby/early-child-rearing days were some of the toughest. I know some women who are just such natural nurturers and stay at home moms. I genuinely wish I was that kind of mom. The kind that have schedules and get their hair and make-up done by noon. The kind who don’t stay in their jammies until 4 PM and then quickly change before the husband comes home so you look like you did stuff all day. The kind of mom who makes banana bread and purees their own baby food, plans play-dates and makes homemade play dough. You know that mom.
I was more of the fake til you make it, hair all dishevelled, toys all over the place, too much TV and waiting until husband is home to figure out what I SHOULD have taken out of the freezer so we can eat dinner in a decent time before bath and bedtime routines begin.
If I could go back, I would embrace that season with both arms and legs, like a koala ☺ Why is hindsight ALWAYS 20-20? I would go back, snuggle my babies all day long, plan long play dates, invite people to the house more often, wear my sweat pants out and not worry about my hair or make-up ever getting done. I would make that homemade puree because I want to, not because it’s an expectation. And I would dig into my Bible and enjoy the extra time being at home.
I know those seasons have purpose and a place in our life, but they can be really challenging to get through. I have a greater appreciation for new moms in this stage. It can be a very difficult season personally and usually a difficult marital season as well. It can be straining on all sides. Everyone is just so darn tired!
I don’t know what season you are in right now. Maybe it’s a stay-at-home-mom season, maybe it is an empty-nest season. Maybe it is a sit-and-wait season – for a job, for a husband.
Whatever season you find yourself in I want to challenge you to not waste this time. This is not a holding cell or a waiting room. There is still much to be done and you can be productive in this season. There are people to be encouraged, things to learn that you don’t yet know. This can be a season of preparation.
So, what if we looked into our current season and asked: “God, what do you want to teach me in this season?”
I often wonder if God has a particular time set for these seasons or if we, through our attitude, grumbling and complaining, prolong these seasons? My season at home seemed much longer then it was. I didn’t get to where I wanted to go very quickly. It was almost 10 years. I wonder had I approached my season with a different attitude could I have shaved off a few years? I’ll never really know.
From now on, I am determined that I do not want to go through a particular season any longer then I have to. And if any of that is dependent upon MY attitude, I will be better. I will be positive. I will embrace it for all its worth. I will ask God what He wants to teach me, what He wants to change in me, who He wants me to encourage and how I can receive all He has for me. That is what I want. I know it will be hard, but I don’t want to waste any time. God has something for me in every season. Because with God never is ever wasted.
The Lord is my chosen portion and my cup; you hold my lot. The lines have fallen for me in pleasant places; indeed, I have a beautiful inheritance. Psalm 16:5-6
For everything there is a season, a time for every activity under heaven. Ecclesiastes 3:1
He is like a tree planted by streams of water that yields its fruit in its season, and its leaf does not wither. In all that he does, he prospers. Psalm 1:3