Many years ago, my very wise Aunt, who had been happily married for forty plus years at the time, said to me, “D’Anne Ruth, don’t forget to date your Prince Charming all the way through your marriage. You don’t want to wake up one morning, after the kids have left home, and sit across the breakfast table from a complete stranger.”
At the time, only being married for about five years with two small babes, I giggled to myself thinking that there was no way Kevin and I could possibly grow apart. We were so happy in our fairy-tale life together and we were enjoying every moment of being new parents to our rambunctious boys. Work life and home life were perfectly balanced and we felt so blessed by our Heavenly Father. What could we possibly want for; what could possibly go wrong? We had the world by the tail. But, despite my ignorant bliss, her words resonated with me and I tucked them deep into my heart for safe keeping.
As it usually does, time raced from a mere five years to twenty-two years of marriage and with its speed brought many unanticipated twists and turns along the way. We have experienced satisfaction and disappointment, joy and sorrow, success and failure, gain and loss. There have been some absolutely amazing days and some very bleak moments. Several hopes became realities and many expectations were dashed. But, by God’s grace and faithfulness, and by us heeding my Aunt’s sage advice, we are more in love than ever, despite all of life’s fury.
We have intentionally chosen to carve out time for one another, and have done so since very early on. Each week we have a date night, whether it be a “movie and snacks” night in or a fancy “to-do” on the town. Daily we touch base via email, phone or text, simply to see how the other is doing. We enjoy long meaningful talks into the wee hours of the morning. Breakfasts out on a Saturday morning are a ritual. We have done the “just because” surprises for one another; flowers at work, treats left in the car, love notes sent in the mail. It is vital to our growth and maturity as a couple. It then filters into all we do at work, at home and at play.
For those of us who are married, the most important person outside of the Lord is our spouse. Period. There is no excuse for not spending quality time with one another.
So, with this in mind Daughters, I encourage you to set time aside for your Prince Charming. Reconnect. Explore. Invest. Enjoy. Discover. You won’t regret it. And when the kids are gone and you are sitting across the breakfast table from one another…who knows what that wonderful moment could hold.
Even when I am old and gray, I know I want my Prince Charming to quote to me Song of Solomon 4:9, “You have captivated my heart, my bride; you have captivated my heart with one glance of your eyes, with one jewel of your necklace.” I want that youthful spark of love to burn for many long years!