It Doesn’t Matter Who You’re Not

Written by: Mandy Lawrence—Hill

“Jealousy will ruin who you are because it focuses all of your attention on what you’re not, instead of who you are.” —Why Her?, Nicki Koziarz

I sat and listened as my friend shared with me how much she disliked another lady, whom we’ll call Jane, from our church. I sipped on my coffee as she shared how some of Jane’s leadership decisions made her upset and my heart broke a little bit more with each word that left her lips.

You see, from my perspective, my friend is a superstar. She is one of the most encouraging, loving, gifted, blessed women in my life, and yet, I as sat there listening to her I was keenly aware of how little she realized this truth. She too had leadership qualities that set her apart. Jealousy however, told my friend the gifts and talents that Jane had were of greater significance. Each one of Jane’s gifts and talents pierced a hole in my friend’s self-confidence paying ignorance to the many gifts and talents she herself had to offer.

As she continued talking, the Holy Spirit reminded me of Moses’ journey in Exodus. In chapter 17, it says this: “As long as Moses held up his hands, the Israelites were winning, but whenever he lowered his hands, the Amalekites were winning. When Moses’ hands grew tired, they took a stone and put it under him and he sat on it. Aaron and Hur held his hands up—one on one side, one on the other—so that his hands remained steady till sunset.

Friends, can you imagine how different the outcome would have been for the Israelites had Aaron and/or Hur allowed feelings of jealousy to dictate their support of Moses? Israel’s victory over the battle against the Amalekites came not because of Moses alone but because of the three men combined. Yes Moses was indeed the leader of the mission but he was simply too weak and tired to carry out that mission without the supporting roles of Aaron and Hur.

The enemy is prowling around looking for ways to derail us from being victorious in the spiritual battle. We know that “our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this world’s darkness, and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.” (Ephesians 6:12) We need to keep this in our foresight as we approach each and every conversation, church gathering/event, and before each and every visit to a source of social media.

The truth is that God has equipped each and every one of us with special gifts, unique talents and a purely divine purpose. As an alternative to feeling challenged or belittled by the gifts and talents of the “Jane’s” in our life, we should be pressing in close with thanksgiving for our own talents and gifts and willingly offer support where we are able, to increase the force against the battle.

Let’s choose to hold each other’s arms up with a passion for victory against the battle, instead of being taken down by who we are not.