I know this doesn’t happen in your home but frequently it does in ours. Here’s how it goes. One daughter tells on another and as soon as I get the first few words of discipline out, my words are cut off. Ultimately the accused rebuttals and then the accuser retaliates and all of my teaching is lost in the mess of it all.
Similarly, I am noticing that this can happen with us adults too. We, by our deficiencies, can interrupt God’s teachings in others.
Have you ever had the honour of sharing in someone else’s mess?
Just yesterday after several disappointments, I reached out to a mentor and new-found friend in my life. She was immediately available; sacrificially laying aside for me. She listened attentively and related where she could. She responded in a way that encouraged me, lifted me up and drew me closer to our Jesus. She prayed over the phone with me, reciting Scripture to feed me Truth. She didn’t pry or appear to have all the answers but she directed me to the One that does.
I don’t always respond that way especially in my marriage.
Laced in my own fears, doubts and insecurities, I can respond in a way that distracts from God’s will in his life. I set the focus on me and us and not Him. I have said out loud, “I can not be what you need.”
And therein lies the truth. I do not have what it takes. And if I keep delving out deficient love then derailment is eminent.
I need to go get Love.
“Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.” 1 John 4:7&8
“And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us.” Romans 5:5
“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.” Galatians 5:22
And it’s when my own fears, doubts and insecurities meet with the profound knowing of God’s love for me that the filling overflows onto those I am most in love with.