Resilience

 

Written by: Cindy Morrone

Having to relay my history to a social worker for our fostering application, she made comment that I had been through very much.  And then she asked me how had I persevered?  How did I not let my past determine my present and my future?

I have often thought of that.

“Resiliency” is defined by Luthar, Cicchetti and Becke, 2000 as, “The achievement of positive adaptation despite exposure to significant threat or severe adversity.”

Resiliency is a game changer.

We are guaranteed to have trouble in this life.

A long time ago, I didn’t believe that. I thought that if I had done all the right things and made all the right plans, that I could avoid brokenness.

And then things beyond my control begin to hammer into my wellness and threatened my recovery.

I promise you my ability to bounce back has nothing to do with me.

Left to my own devices hurt, fear, and feelings of worthlessness turn to a (too high) wall shutting all out.  Closing off any chance to love again; to be restored; to live my life abundantly.  So much would be missed.

Maybe for you it’s anger, revenge, bitterness or unforgiveness. And so much is missed.

So, if it isn’t me, then what? Who?

Hebrews chapter 10 verse 23 encourages us, “Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for he who promised is faithful.”

There it is……. hope.

Hope that things will get better.  Hope that things will change.  Hope that our prayers will be answered. Hope that we will love and be loved.

What is it that you are hoping for?

My certainty no longer lies in others, or circumstances, outcomes, wins or losses; it relies on the faithfulness of the One I pray to.

I’ll never forget the celebration we had when our forever family was established.  Standing on the platform, my husband and I vowed to parent two beautiful babies.  Me, a barren woman.

My hope lies in my Forever Faithful.

Where does your hope lie?

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