A few years ago, I attended a funeral for a lady that was a relative of some friends of my family. It was a really beautiful service which highlighted the many ways her family will remember her including: her devotion to Christ, her strong will, her ability to pray and the love she lavished onto her children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren.
It was during her son’s eulogy that God began to speak to my heart. He shared that his mom possessed three qualities that made her the “best mom in the world.”
I must admit, when he first shared this ‘best-mom-in-the-world’ combination, it seemed like quite a mixed bag. However, as he elaborated…the Holy Spirit gently nudged me.
These Mom-qualities are actually quite complimentary.
As a fairly new mom myself, I am learning things on a daily basis. Love without discipline is a disaster waiting to happen. Respect and responsibility are two very important things that come as a direct outcome of discipline. Love which involves discipline is a pretty amazing gift when you think about it. Discipline without love pretty much speaks for itself. And, all you mom’s out there would most likely agree that it takes a multitude of patience to implement discipline with love. As love and discipline work together to create a precious gift; patience is the beautiful bow that wraps the three together.
The bible speaks of these qualities as a few of the very gifts of the spirit. “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Against such things there is no law.” (Galatians 5:22-23 NET)
As this son wrapped up the eulogy he’d carefully written about his mom, he had the room convinced that she had ‘done himself (and his five other siblings) good.’ He recognized that discipline was necessary and even said that he and his siblings “got what they deserved.” He stood confident in her love and adored her for her wealth of patience. The deepness of both his love and respect for his mom was truly inspirational to me in my role as a mom.
How will your children stand when you leave this world? Will they stand confident in your love; respectful and patient? Or, alternatively, will they stand unassured, trapped in a place of entitlement from lack of discipline; or wounded from your failure to proceed with patience? If your answer is the latter, how might you change to correct this?
Jesus, thank You for the sweet sweet gift of motherhood. Please help me to be a Mom of integrity and Christ-like character. I pray that as I endeavour to raise my children, they feel not only an assurance that I love them, but that You too love them in abundance. In Your name I pray, amen.