A Wise Alternative


Written By: Mandy Lawrence-Hill

“Pray continually.” (1 Thessalonians 5:17)

More often than I wish to admit, I choose words of my flesh over words in spoken in prayer. This is especially true in my marriage.

When my hubby and I disagree on something, my first instinct is to defend; using words. However, the bible says to …..“watch your words and hold your tongue; you’ll save yourself a lot of grief.” (Proverbs 21:23)

So, why not offer up a prayer instead?!…..whether it’s as simple as “Please help me, Jesus! I need Your wisdom in this situation.” Or, something more lengthy; prayer in those moments is a much wiser alternative to speaking the words of our own flesh.

The bible also says this: “Watch the way you talk. Let nothing unwholesome come out of your mouth. Say only what helps, each word a gift.” (Ephesians 4:29)

Our natural instincts are to talk….I’m certain you’ve heard these sayings before: “Talk your way out of it”, “talk your way to the top!” etc. However, the bible has a lot to say about very carefully examining what we speak before any words leave our lips.

I was really thinking about this the other day and asked the Lord for a wise way to say less. Was it to listen more? Speak fewer words? I felt him nudge my heart with our verse for today: Pray continually.

As I pondered this verse….I was overwhelmed by what a different world we would live in if we all choose to pray continually instead of using so many of our own words. If every time a disagreement arose in my marriage and I prayed through it….rather than taking on defence and seeking my own victorious conclusion; I believe the outcomes of those disagreements would be much more peaceable.