Written by: Cindy Morrone
It was like a scene in s.l.o.w motion. You could see it coming, one sister with her mouth wide open chasing after her running away screaming sister. I would hear the alarm and immediately try to intercede. There were a couple of times I was too late and one had already bit the other with the teeth marks to prove it.
One of our parenting tactics has been to divide and conquer.
After something like this we would separate them. One in the living room and one in the play room with a baby safety gate in between them.
Although this tactic can be effective in certain circumstances, I don’t think we near realize how often our enemy uses this scheme to separate us from our loved ones.
We have been done wrong. We’ve been hurt. We have been lied to; stolen from; cheated on, neglected……. and the list is endless.
We hold the offense and let it linger and fester until the divide between our loved ones seems impossible to reconcile.
I’ve learned so much about holding onto offense recently in our small group as we go through John Bevere’s book, The Bait of Satan. Mainly that offense is a tool of the devil to bring us into captivity (page 7), and holding that offense against the doer causes all sorts of wrongness onto ourselves, mostly.
2 Timothy 2: 23-26 reads, “Don’t have anything to do with foolish and stupid arguments, because you know they produce quarrels. And the Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but must be kind to everyone, able to teach, not resentful. Opponents must be gently instructed, in the hope that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth, and that they will come to their senses and escape from the trap of the devil, who has taken them captive to do his will.”
I have read and agree with the many quotes that encourage us to just hold on in the midst of trials and difficulties because of the blessings that await us on the other side. They warn us that if we give up we will miss out on so much.
I have experienced something surprisingly similar when I have been offended in a relationship. If I instead lean onto my God, my Saviour, my Redeemer, the One that holds my best interests and give Him the offence, praying for that person, rather than hold them accountable, then the most amazing things happen between us!! A deeper love, a new found friend, the birth of a new ministry or someone who has experienced similar hurts to speak new life, just to name a few.
It’s with all things with Jesus once we adopt His teachings there is new found freedom!! Life Abundant!!
Let’s recognize the tactic and fight to unite!
p.s. Even for us, this approach rarely proved very effectual for inevitably they then became the best of friends again and would start sharing toys over the gate!