Without Rival—Week Four, Post One

This week we will be studying and discussing Chapters 7 & 8 of Without Rival by Lisa Bevere

Written by: Doretta Zinck

Loving people fearlessly; okay what does that look like??? To love someone without fear of being hurt or mistreated means you have to take risks, but more than that, you have to be ready and willing to forgive, sometimes daily. In our own strength we can forgive little, love little, but when we ask the Holy Spirit to help us forgive others we can start to love fearlessly. Maturing as we come to understand that we are all broken as a result of our sinful nature allows us to forgive others.

“There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear. “ (1 John 4:18 NASB)
“There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.” (‭‭John‬ ‭15:13‬ ‭NLT‬‬)
He knows the real us with our sinful nature yet still loves us and sacrificed everything for us. Thank you for the cross, Lord!

If there was a theme message for my life it would be the value of self kindness, I became a Christian right before my sixteenth birthday. Over many years I have watched sisters in Christ over-commit, overwork and settle for underwhelming results. I have also seen victories in those who nurtured themselves, who respected their own personal boundaries and coveted that personal time with God. They knew the value and importance of quality, personal time with God as they basked in the fulfillment of being used by God to further His Kingdom. They looked forward to those times of commune with God each day, eager to learn more of Him and His calling on their lives. Almost 40 years later I am still learning and growing (that’s code for “I don’t know if I’ll ever get there!!) as I strive to be in that place. But I have seen some of the fruits of having the right focus on myself and my relationship with God, experiences that have hardened my resolve to continue in this most holy pursuit.

Lisa refers to your spiritual health as a well. Is your well deep, healthy and full of the living water of the Word, or are you a wishing well that has deep longings but shallow resources, always wishing you’d made different choices that would have different results in your life? Living an unrivalled life means your story is not over and, while our past (good and bad) does influence the person we are today it by no means defines who we will become tomorrow as daughters of the most High God. Dig your spiritual well deep and replenish it daily with time with God who loves you more then you can ever imagine. Let’s face our future with hope and confidence that God will use us for His glory and His purposes.

Please choose one of the questions from our conversation cafe and answer it in the comment section below!

Conversation Cafe:

  1. What is it that scares you about forgiving someone?
  2. Who is it that you refuse to forgive until they change?
  3. How would you describe someone with a deep well?
  4. How can you be more intentional about tending your well?