Recently our daughter was introducing me to a new young music talent by showing me her video online. She started to tell me, “Mommy, she’s a really nice girl and has a really great heart.” I immediately asked her how she knew about this young lady’s character and asked her if she was making an assumption or if she was speaking factual. I know from previous experience that if a celebrity looks pretty on the outside, our daughter will assume she is pretty on the inside. I was about to go into a lecture on this and immediately my thought process switched gears. While I don’t ever want my daughter to ‘judge’ a person…period…I certainly don’t want her judging someone based on their appearance. But I knew in that moment I had to be careful. After all…what is so wrong with assuming someone is good on the inside?
When I was growing up, if anyone ever commented on my appearance or said something to my Mom like, “You have such a pretty young lady there,” my Mom would respond, “She is my best work. But what is most important is that she is pretty on the inside too.” And that gave me something to strive for every day. Now, there are many times where I failed miserably and without even using a magnifying glass…my insides looked tainted and tarnished. But just hearing her say that altered my focus from my outward appearance, to the type of person I wanted to be on this planet.
1 Samuel 16:7, “But God told Samuel, ‘Looks aren’t everything. Don’t be impressed with his looks and stature. I’ve already eliminated him. God judges persons differently than humans do. Men and women look at the face; God looks into the heart.” (MSG)
Gals, aren’t we striving to live Christ-like? How much better would this existence be if we spent our time building each other up? Sadly enough, finding the flaws in another person can be super easy. But are you looking for the treasure? My Mom also used to say, “There is good in everyone, honey…if you just take the time to look for it.”
There are plenty of people who find pleasure in bringing others down or calling out their mistakes and weaknesses. What if we bind together and decide to call people out on their strengths. What if we make the first move to welcome a new person? To leave a note for someone who seems to be struggling that simply says, “You are loved.” And Sisters…if you are going to love someone by being their friend in person or on social media…love them behind their back too. Don’t get caught up when others want to bring them down.
Rise up gals! Be the light in the darkness. You, alone, have the power to make a huge difference in this world by choosing to see beyond the flaws…and digging deep to find the treasure. You may just find that treasure isn’t buried as deep as you thought and is just waiting to be revealed by someone who will take a minute to get out their shovel.